For years well-meaning people have told the Complete and Total Loser to ignore what others say about him and that what he thinks and how he feels about himself is all that matters.
Then those same people tell him to stop being down on himself when he speaks of his many, many (you would not believe how many) failures and shortcomings. "You're interesting! You have skills! You have abilities!" they say. And he is supposed to listen to them.
Is the Loser the only one who sees a contradiction here?